Reflecting on various times in my life of wanting an outcome to come to fruition according to my deepest desires and best laid out plans , the challenges of watching loved ones at the end of their lives breathing their final breaths wondering when their end would come, crawling through unhealthy relationship patterns wishing my partners would change and wondering how long it would take , the struggle of friendships and jobs dissolving that needed to end yet my refusing to walk away, the long journey of my transformation from living a life of unhealed beliefs and behaviors as I stepped into the powerful warrior woman I finally claimed and embraced when I did not even know that is where I was headed…..all these experiences were characterized with my walking out of the present moment and wanting sometimes obsessively to reach the outcome, the destination of what I wanted to achieve. I have watched since the time of 2020 when the world changed not only what was occurring in my psyche but what was occurring in others….such as the outcome of an election in the USA or the wanting to know the outcome of a mysterious virus that changed how we all lived our lives.
What I have remembered in thinking about various scenarios is when I am so focused on an outcome I have demanded the Universe deliver on my time frame and on my terms (this by the way is when I have allowed my ego to take over my show by the way) I have created a proverbial prison cell, thrown the key through the bars out of reach so I am stuck with my original passion that has turned into a “must have it my way at all costs- focused obsession.” What I am really wanting is to get the outcome I want and in these times of demanding my way and my great mental plans, I have lost the ability to enjoy the present moment steps of the journey forgetting once again it is the journey, not the destination that really matters!
Now being ultra focused ,even obsessed on a goal such as finishing a book, winning an election, graduating with a degree, getting married to the partner of my dreams, or any other must have on my time frame goals may not be such a bad thing. After all, does putting all my focus on the goal I want not lead to success? Yes, my friends, it mostly certainly can result in success! However…..here comes the different perspective…..
What if we each were to walk through our journey hoping for the outcome we want but during this journey we were able to maintain a sense of calm, peace, and were spreading happiness and positivity to all around us ? We would be surrendering tension, anxiety, fears, all the stress that encompasses the opposite obsessive pushing and forcing of getting that outcome we so deeply crave. We would enjoy pleasure in each step along the way as we watched the unfolding of not having to figure out how it was all going to work out. We could even surrender the need to know the unknown that was ahead in the future, and Oh My God, even surrender the fact we absolutely do not know what is the Highest and Best Good for ourselves, anyone else , or the world.
I am calling this different perspective Alchemical Juice. If you would like a sample, just stop what you are doing right now and exhale all that you have wrapped your tight claws around , all the need to know what is coming, embrace each precious moment of your journey in this thing called life, and laugh as hard as you can with yourself at how your prior patterns were maybe bringing about success but with the cost of creating drama, havoc of your mind-body-spirit, and did I mention were also causing the disconnection and putting on hold of those passions and relationships we could have been giving our time and energy to if we had a different perspective?
Of course, change does not come easy for most people. Familiar ways of doing life do not easily leave us . We will sometimes keep doing the same thing the same way expecting different results. I have heard that is called insanity. We change and transform only when we are sick and tired of pounding our heads into another wall of blocking our peace, or in my old way of living… locking ourselves in a cell and throwing away the key. We each really do have the key to freedom of ahhhhh peace of mind, relaxed bodies, and bounding spirits of heart centered alignment with serenity.
The year 2020…the year the world changed…has it brought you a different perspective or have you kept doing the same thing the same way expecting and hoping for different results? Something to ponder …in your spare moments.