When I reflect throughout various times in my life I can pinpoint a consistent desire to escape routine ways of doing anything. I don’t know if all creative people need to foster change or if because I was born a visionary Aquarian that routine and the same old way of doing anything drives me into boredom, but I really do relish change. I have heard for years that change is a constant and I do know many people who freak when change happens. Looking at aspects of my personality, and I do know myself well, it does seem surprising that I adore change because I have this thread of wanting control that runs through my core in certain areas of my human experience. Change almost always shows up at the most unexpected and inopportune times, and most people resist it due to wanting to exert control over what or who change is affecting in our lives. I will share with you part of myself does go with the flow, dancing through changes giggling all the way. Then there is that desire to know what is going to happen, how the players involved will play out their parts, and when the re-set of balance will come after a change has thrown me into a topsy-turvy situation. The flowing dancer part of me can walk away from most situations and people in a heartbeat. This is because when I intuitively know the lesson it or they came to show me is complete I just walk away..with no emotion or regret attached to it.
However change and transition are not exactly the same. Change is the particular event that occurs such as losing a job, death, birth, break-up of a relationship, retirement, medical challenges in our body or mind, or a geographic move. Change can be forced upon us by circumstances beyond our control or it can be our choice.
Transition is a process, a journey we walk through to adapt to a change . Transition happens internally as we process changes that have occurred and start considering what we really desire out of life; and , externally as we choose different people, different ways we live our lives, and even different activities that may fit us better and more efficiently.
Perhaps once we get over the shock of a change that has been thrust upon us and are reflecting upon how to process the adaptations needed in the transition we might decide to partner with both the change(s) and how to adapt to a different way to live our lives. This is not always easy! However I have found in my own life through many changes I have walked through that instead of staying in the same familiar routines with the same people and situation the Universe has offered me a window of opportunity that I never even considered!
Gathering around us a tribe of support who will help us is crucial. There may be those who do not support us, and we can choose to not listen to their negative comments about what we need to do. The truth is since birth we have craved connections of those who nurture and lift us to higher levels of confidence as we face the monkey wrenches of change. We do not have to face these difficult times alone! You may be surprised who your tribe consists of, and who has always been there for you!
Focus on aspects of the transition you can control. It is part of the human experience to feel powerless when major transitions are happening. When we focus on those parts we can successfully act upon and change our thinking of the situation we find ourselves in, we will discover we really do have skills and abilities within to be able to deal with change.
Through this time of transition when we add an element of gratitude we might see though at times we feel overwhelmed and afraid, gratitude can be a keystone of an arch and portal we can advance through. Gratitude when practiced on a daily basis has many gifts and one big one is by writing a gratitude list on paper our brains get rewired! As we partner with changes and transitions that we never saw coming and see the Warrior within emerging by facing our fears, using our tribe to help support us, and practicing an attitude of gratitude , we just may view the changes and transitions which looked like a crisis now presenting to us an incredible opportunity of growth and resilience.
One last note is that you may choose to seek professional support from a life coach or other person to assist you in creating your best outlined plan of action. It is not a weakness to ask for outside help, and you may see through the eyes of another person who offers ideas, who celebrates your growth with you, and who really sees you that you are given the treasure chest of seeing yourself as a person with a vision and purpose instead of one who is stuck in quicksand of a crisis with no way out.
”Your life does not get better by chance. It gets better by change. “ – Jim Rohn
”We all get scared and want to run away, but it isn’t always strength that makes you stay. Strength is also making the decision to change your destiny” – Zoraida Cordova
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