Our world continues to change. Many people do not realize that everything is energy. What we put out into the world and how we live is an energetic co-creation of the actual manifestations of our thoughts and decisions. What and where we put our focus upon becomes our reality. We individually and as a collective are responsible for the evolution or the downfall of humanity. Reflect upon this truth for a bit before you honestly answer the question: Do you base your decisions on fear or on love? When we base our decisions and choices on fear we are not just affecting our own little world, we are affecting the entire world, the planet, and humanity to exist as a fear based world. We may feel protected in the moment by projecting decisions based on fear but in the long term we are creating a world of restrictions and limited freedom. On the other side of the coin choices and decisions stemming from love based ones create expansion, abundance, harmony, and unrestricted freedom .
How can you be sure how your decisions are based? Consider how your body feels when making a decision. The body cannot lie because it gathers its information from the aspects of the brain and the heart. Both are messengers. When you are in the process of making a decision do you feel nervous, have sweaty palms, muscles begin tensing up? Do you feel powerless and lacking control ? Do you worry how your career, your loved ones, your place in society will be affected by your decisions? Do you have concerns you might be missing out on the love of a lifetime , a financial opportunity that may affect your future, or a career change that might result in reaching your highest potential? These are all fear-based aspects of decisions. Before I was aware of my underlying need to be sure I was doing the absolute right, perfectionistic actions I created my own self-imposed prison of uncertainty. Today after learning practices that work I call those past fear based struggles the “What If Syndrome”.
Other fear based decisions may be turning down an offer of a work promotion because of the fear of failure or the fear of success; breaking up with a friend or relationship because of a fear of being vulnerable that is required to work through issues that need to be confronted; not joining a gym because of a fear of how others will judge how you look on Day 1; staying in a job or relationship that is causing you repeated stress because of the fear of changing what is familiar, even though it is causing you unhappiness.
Consider what love based decisions are about. These decisions are based on intentions that focus on what we want to actually happen and manifest. I began asking myself questions about what I truly wanted to see unfold in my world. Questions such as do I want to be an equal partnership with a romantic partner? Do I want friendships that support me as I reciprocate the same and do I want to be heard in the friendship? Do I want to have the freedom to do work that feeds my soul? Do I want to experience another culture when I choose to travel ? Do I want to work only to receive an income or do I want to be of service to others? Love based choices and decisions do not guarantee an elimination of fear, but they do pave the way to a magical way to live ,watching things unfold without needing to know how and when , even if things will happen!
If you have discovered you are making fear based decisions and want to begin making decisions based on love here are some ideas:
-Come face to face with your fears: Name them. Ask yourself if the fear you uncover is even true; who told you that story? Ask instead of what can go wrong, what can go right? After you name your fears, replace each one with encouraging beliefs and intentions of hope.
-Reflect on what your really want, not want others want for you. Get clear on the truth that you deserve to experience what your heart of hearts truly desires. Know your core values. Write them out on paper and align your heart desires with your values. Instead of impulsively making a decision because you feel it must be made immediately, take time to evaluate and assess what needs to happen for what you want to come into fruition.
-Scan your body messages. If your heart is racing, your hands are sweating, and your belly is quivering these may be symptoms you are in fear. Calm yourself first with grounding exercises such as going outside and sitting in nature or going for a long walk in silence. Then move forward with a decision.
-Looking back on past decisions you have made, even if they were made based on fear, affirm to yourself you did the best you could with where you were at in life then and with what you knew. Affirm in the present moment you can trust yourself to practice and learn to make more love based decisions.
When we practice , and it does take practice , to make love based decisions instead of fear based ones we are on the path of achieving our true potential, and we are co-creating with others doing the same, creating a world of love itself; thus, we are giving humanity a new vision not only for ourselves, but for future generations to come! What we do for ourselves energetically we are doing for others! Practicing being love itself is contagious and will expand to a love-based world!
Jaguarwind 