For a long part of my childhood into my adulthood I suffered from the “What If Syndrome” encapsulated within “I must know what is coming , how the players on the Stage of Life are going to act in their roles, and if it all will work out!!”
I do not know exactly when I began understanding that everything is Energy, but today I absolutely know it 100%. Once I started seeing how fear, worry, anxiety were brick walls I created in my mind and that they blocked me from being free and content, I became willing to find a way to live my life differently. Of course, it all goes back to that Reptilian Brain that sees the Tyrannosaurus Rex about to devour us. Ingrained old beliefs of our own making along with the ones the Collective carries can play out scenarios and stories we each tell ourselves. I have learned I can ask myself questions when I start to freak out that the worst thing I can imagine is going to happen. Mainly: “Is this true? What is my evidence? Who told me that? “
Because I have come to believe what the Ancient Ones knew …that Nature is our greatest teacher, I long ago began to watch Nature herself teach me. Does the caterpillar worry it will not go through its metamorphic stages and not transform into a beautiful butterfly with wings of freedom to experience its environment? Do the birds worry they will not have food sources when their world is covered in snow and frigid temperatures are a constant in the Winter? Does a tree that is burned during a Forest Fire worry it is doomed to be destroyed and will never sprout new roots and branches? We can learn so much if we will pause, observe, and see the magical elements Nature freely offers us to apply in our navigation out of our fears. Before I was willing to pay attention to Nature’s Wisdom there were some simple strategies I used to surrender my worries, concerns, and fears of not knowing what was going to happen to me, to my loved ones, and even to the world.
Before I share these ideas, I wanted to offer the underlying aspect of a need to know…Control…the need to be in control, the need to figure it out with our great intelligence, and the almost psychotic obsession to live out demanding it is our right to see what is coming in a future time when that time does not even exist..because all any of us have is the present moment. Yet, how many in the world are willing to become aware that Control does not even exist for it is for the most part just an illusion. Many will fight this idea because their thinking brain (the one that overthinks most situations) does not want to admit and accept life is not about control though many will use all the tools in their proverbial box of dysfunction to manipulate, exaggerate, and force things to be the outcome each hungrily lusts for!
Strategies:
Use all your senses when in the midst of creating a story of worry: Look/see, Listen, Smell, Touch, Move Your Body, Taste(the fear) as you are gathering evidence in your world that everything and you really are okay in this moment.
Get grounded into your body and breathe. Go for a brisk or power walk. Get out in Nature. Feel your feet touching the Earth. Grounding helps you get back into the present moment in which there is peace and safety.
Write/journal what you feel you get out of certainty. When you get to run your world write and do things within absolute control in your life. Do your to -do list. Distract yourself by listening to music, meditating, exercising, reading a book, watching a video. Eliminate those things not really important in the moment and do the things that are. This helps your focus to instill positivity instead of the negativity worry causes.
When we watch things unfold we get to really see how magical life really can be. I love that most of the time I am a proverbial cliff jumper..jumping off the next adventure and aligning with what is happening ..to the world, to the players on the stage of life, to my passions, and to my fears. As I jump not knowing if I will even land, my fears seem to vanish and I sprout Wings of Freedom and the better outcome is manifested! If I tried to plan this incredible way things turn out, step by step I would mess it up. In the process I am gifted with the Super Power of Not Needing to Know! I invite you to try it. If you are still not happy with the outcome, you can always return to worrying about what is coming next and believing you know. If that is your option, let me know how that is working for you.
“To attain knowledge, add things everyday. To attain wisdom, remove things every day.” ― Lao Tzu
“Life is not a test. It is a series of experiences in the Human Condition” – Jennye Johnson
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