We may not like to know this truth but here it is. We choose our partners, our bosses, our friendships, our advisors based on reflections of inter-connections. All our relationships are a mirror looking back at ourselves!
We may express we want to be seen, and even express “ I see you” to another. Being seen is a deep desire for another to see all of us…the good, the bad, the light, the shadows. We want to be seen entirely , we voice, but what if we are not embracing and accepting all parts of ourselves? If our relationships are mirrors and we abhor and disrespect the reflection we are seeing, how do we react? Sometimes we take our toys and go to another sandbox. Sometimes we create as many distractions as we can find to avoid looking at our complete selves. Distractions such as work, staying busy, television, social media, the gym, or addictions keep us from connecting on a deep level. We bury ourselves in a pile of quicksand, thinking we are escaping from those challenging relationships only to eventually find out, if we live to see the truth, that we are abandoning not just our relationships but abandoning ourselves!
When we finally through a myriad of walking away from those proverbial reflections of relationships that we have forever pointed our finger at the problem being THEM, and stop hiding from the parts of ourselves we have refused to accept for years, situations begin to seemingly,magically change. As we accept, honor, and even love the darkest elements of our personalities as equal partners with the radiant, compassionate aspects of ourselves, we see those relationships we struggled with start falling away,disappearing, and dissolving. We no longer need the mirror relationships of our hidden selves.
We attract new mirrors who see us and we see them! We shine even when our mirror relationships see our shadowy sides because we have awakened to vulnerability and relish being seen! As they see us, we gratefully acknowledge we see them!
If you have relationships who cannot see you, perhaps it is past time to see what part of you is being reflected to bring forth in illuminating light for you to love, accept, and even forgive. Thank that relationship for arriving to teach you about yourself….or keep pointing the finger of blame thinking the fault lies in “them” .
I see you and you shine!