For most people change is the monster under the bed that is terrifying. No matter how hard we try to control our environment, our life, our world… change is inevitable. I believe we resist change because we have such a strong attachment to the familiar. Even when we know the familiar is not working, we engage our proverbial claws deeply into our personal familiar. Why? We are uncomfortable with the unknown! We fear we will not be able to manipulate and control the new, the different, the transition….and we are correct. What we can do is to embrace the ever unfolding steps and moments change presents. Some see change as a challenge. I who have been a proverbial cliff jumper of seeing change as an exhilarating opportunity look for the silver lining of change!
I can assure you my personal changes at times are not met with beaming gratitude initially. However, because I am a pretty fast processor of the new, the unfamiliar, being receptive to the visions I dare to dream manifesting, and the opening of creative opportunities the Universe presents, I have made a choice to partner with change. It is a possibility we each can practice!
Ways to effectively cope with change that tiptoes into our life or that seems to pounce upon us like a fire breathing predator, especially in a world that continues to be altering our set expectations may include
- Focusing and reflecting upon what is primarily important rather than aligning with our paralyzing fears may empower our coping mechanisms, such as observing the beauty of nature, our close connections with our tribe and loved ones, and embracing our passions . In doing so we create an atmosphere of positive distractions from our projected fearful apparitions.
- Ask your fears and perceived challenges over the changes you are experiencing what opportunity and hurdles the changes came to teach you! It could be to claim new adaptation techniques and increased courage and determination in honoring and loving your warrior within! With each new episode of walking through a challenge never experienced previously we have evidence of how resilient and capable we really can be!
- Inventory honestly your thoughts during and after the change passes. Do you make up a story you keep mindfully re-constructing about what is the worst that can happen or do you stay in the present moment watching each step unfold? Do you react or do you respond ?
Take a walk, inhale/exhale, and become willing to be present for another instead of constant talking and chattering about the awfulness that things are not as they always have been. Often by gathering an attitude of gratitude we are more able to see the good that has come out of taking the dive into unfamiliar territory.
We cannot stop life from changing . We can surrender the ways we have always used in attempts to control and resist reality. Once you find what works for you , why not freely and unselfishly share it with another? That ,dear reader , is an expected gift of not giving up before a miracle happens….a miracle of awakening to see an amazing part of yourself you never knew was waiting to be revealed!